Artwork by myself

 

 “Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” - Winston S. Churchill


The blogging pool just isn't as small as it used to be. At first it's fun to take a little dip, the initial paddle takes your breath away and you start to become more and more desperate to go full hog and dunk your shoulders right under. Before you know it your buying inflatables and attempting to splash about at the top of the pool, because in the back of your mind you want to be one of the perfectly immaculate cool kids who swoon about on a lilos drinking lavish cocktails. You try your very best to to clamber aboard but can't help but look a little disheveled and fall short,  making a big splash and inevitably loosing a bikini top in the whole darn process.
Of course these pressures don't just exist in the blogging world, outside of my blog (in the unspeakable real world) and cast into the super competitive world of fashion design, i often find myself banging my head against the bitterly harsh wall of failure. 

For example a recent project of mine just wasn't good enough - The grade was actually okay, but i can't shake of the feeling of self-doubt. Watching my final year show confirmed my feelings and stuck salt in my wounds, the creations I saw from my class were incredible. It's not that I'm not happy for them, you wont find someone who's jaw was lower to the ground then mine or who was waving the banner higher for our class. 

The industry I'm in has no patience for the mundane or the slow movers - It requires constant excitement and entertainment, like a spoiled child waiting for the newest toy. These moments of self doubt and despair are highly unlikely to be met with patience and a comforting arm.  I give my all to my projects, sometimes I give too much and start eating into my sanity by depraving myself from breaks or sleep. The lack of sleep met with constant dead ends start to take their toll and start chipping into my self esteem by filling my head with lies that I'm just not good enough. 

Instead of allowing these moments of negativity to overwhelm me I focus on the things I know I can do and can control. 


  1. I say no. When I'm not working I'm very much a pro-yes person taking up as many opportunity's as I can, from going out with friends or to taking up blog projects. But when it comes to juggling my university work with everything else i always struggle and inevitably my work falls behind. It's important to prioritize whats matters the most, that doesn't mean cutting off all connections and shouting flat out no's. Think of it as a delayed yes. 
  2.  I create manageable to-do lists. These are realistic lists, not those harsh lists you create for yourselves in your mind. These are easy to accomplish bite size steps which will help you reach your goals. 
  3. I accept that I'm not perfect. We all know no-ones perfect - god knows we read it all the time in soppy quotes, but when it comes to ourselves we still enforce this unnecessary pressure. I give myself time to cry, spoil myself with chocolate and rubbish television and then move on - spending any more time grieving for what could have been only prolongs the pain. Accept it, pick yourself up and move on. Tomorrow is another day.
Artwork by myself

 

 “Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” - Winston S. Churchill


The blogging pool just isn't as small as it used to be. At first it's fun to take a little dip, the initial paddle takes your breath away and you start to become more and more desperate to go full hog and dunk your shoulders right under. Before you know it your buying inflatables and attempting to splash about at the top of the pool, because in the back of your mind you want to be one of the perfectly immaculate cool kids who swoon about on a lilos drinking lavish cocktails. You try your very best to to clamber aboard but can't help but look a little disheveled and fall short,  making a big splash and inevitably loosing a bikini top in the whole darn process.
Of course these pressures don't just exist in the blogging world, outside of my blog (in the unspeakable real world) and cast into the super competitive world of fashion design, i often find myself banging my head against the bitterly harsh wall of failure. 

For example a recent project of mine just wasn't good enough - The grade was actually okay, but i can't shake of the feeling of self-doubt. Watching my final year show confirmed my feelings and stuck salt in my wounds, the creations I saw from my class were incredible. It's not that I'm not happy for them, you wont find someone who's jaw was lower to the ground then mine or who was waving the banner higher for our class. 

The industry I'm in has no patience for the mundane or the slow movers - It requires constant excitement and entertainment, like a spoiled child waiting for the newest toy. These moments of self doubt and despair are highly unlikely to be met with patience and a comforting arm.  I give my all to my projects, sometimes I give too much and start eating into my sanity by depraving myself from breaks or sleep. The lack of sleep met with constant dead ends start to take their toll and start chipping into my self esteem by filling my head with lies that I'm just not good enough. 

Instead of allowing these moments of negativity to overwhelm me I focus on the things I know I can do and can control. 


  1. I say no. When I'm not working I'm very much a pro-yes person taking up as many opportunity's as I can, from going out with friends or to taking up blog projects. But when it comes to juggling my university work with everything else i always struggle and inevitably my work falls behind. It's important to prioritize whats matters the most, that doesn't mean cutting off all connections and shouting flat out no's. Think of it as a delayed yes. 
  2.  I create manageable to-do lists. These are realistic lists, not those harsh lists you create for yourselves in your mind. These are easy to accomplish bite size steps which will help you reach your goals. 
  3. I accept that I'm not perfect. We all know no-ones perfect - god knows we read it all the time in soppy quotes, but when it comes to ourselves we still enforce this unnecessary pressure. I give myself time to cry, spoil myself with chocolate and rubbish television and then move on - spending any more time grieving for what could have been only prolongs the pain. Accept it, pick yourself up and move on. Tomorrow is another day.

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